A view of human beings as defined by our internal statesour talents, goals, and preferencesis deeply ingrained in the Western world. This view is at the root of conventional approaches for making career decisions: If our true identity is inside, deep within ourselves, only introspection can lead to the right action steps and a better-fitting career.
Neither Lucys nor Pierres experience conforms to this model, nor do the other reinvention stories we examine here. Instead, like most people, Pierre and Lucy learned about themselves experientially, by doing rather than thinking. Certainly, reflecting on past experiences, future dreams, and current values or strengths is an essential and valuable step. But reflection best comes later, when we have some momentum and when there is something new to reflect on. Our old identities, even when they are out of whack with our core values and fundamental preferences, remain entrenched because they are anchored in our daily activities, strong relationships, and life stories. In the same way, identities change in practice, as we start doing new things (crafting experiments), interacting with different people (shifting connections), and reinterpreting our life stories through the lens of the emerging possibilities (making sense).
Long before they took the leap, Pierre and Lucy tried out their new roles on a limited, experimental scale. They made increasing investments of their time and energy rather than one momentous decision. Neither at the start imagined the magnitude of the changes ahead. Pierres experiments consisted of spending time at the monastery, giving seminars, and developing his own spiritual practice. He began a book linking his interests in bereavement and Buddhism. Lucy hired a personal coach, attended seminars, and later went back to school for a masters while continuing her job as a manager. Even after leaving ForumOne, she experimented with consulting jobs to eliminate those too much like her old line of work.
Pierre and Lucy also shared the good fortune of having a guiding figure to help them over the chasm, and both enjoyed the encouragement of a new professional community. But these were not career counselors, outplacers, or headhunters, nor were they family and close friends. Instead, they found support in new acquaintances and peer groups. For Pierre, meeting a Tibetan lama who was, like he, a European, turned an abstract notion to a concrete reality embodied in a mentor figure. As he spent more and more of his time at the monastery, he found an intellectual and spiritual community he wanted to be part of. Lucy also found a role model in the organizational consultant whom she engaged at Pink. The consultant helped her see she was on the wrong track and pointed her to the community of organizational development professionals she immediately recognized she wanted to be part of.
All good stories hinge on turning points, dramatic moments when the clouds part and the truth is revealed. In this regard, too, Pierre and Lucy are typical. Both experienced events that triggered a realization that they were fed up with the old and ready to embrace something new. A project that Pierre had slaved on died a political death. Lucys company was restructured and the political infighting heightened. Suddenly, both saw themselves in a future they no longer wanted.
Few working lives are untouched by organizational changes, internal management shuffles, office politics, and the stress, burnout, or disaffection that goes with the territory. But, these external triggers are rarely enough to propel a deeper change. The barrier, for both Pierre and Lucy, was a lingering hope that both old and new selves could happily coexist. On vacation, forced to make sense of the nonsense of his actions, Pierre finally realized he had to choose. Lucys husbands question, Are you happy? tipped her off to her rising malaise with her managerial role and the toll it was taking. For both, a small, symbolic moment, rather than an operatic event, jelled awareness that the time was ripe for change. Significantly, this personal turning point came late in the transition process, when both Pierre and Lucy were well along the way.
Pierres and Lucys stories are far from unique. Once we start questioning not only whether we are in the right job or organization but also what we thought we wanted in the future, the planned and methodical job search methods we have all been taught fail us. As summarized in figure 1-2, during times of identity in transitionwhen our possible selves are shifting wildlythe only way to create change is to put our possible identities into practice, working and crafting them until they are sufficiently grounded in experience to guide more decisive steps.
Taken From: Working Identity: Unconventional Strategies for Reinventing Your Career